This is my first earning from my affiliate marketing…
$3 from promoting CPA via peerfly…
I’m sooo excited…
a little bit light in my dark days…
I’m dealing with depression because of business setback at the moment, and
Stress is piling up, and having a frequent mood swings because of it…
despite of this, i know i’m not alone fighting a depression…
Here’s an article i found that might be help…
If you’re dealing with a setback too:
1. Acknowledge it.
No one is immune to setbacks. If you have one, recognize the problem. By doing this you can start the process of transformation, for it is on the other side of the setback that we realize we are not going to be the same person we were before. We are going to be wiser, stronger, and better for it.
Like nature and the seasons, the caterpillar and the butterfly, the tadpole and the frog, there’s no turning back, there’s no putting our head in the sand to pretend it isn’t happening. Acknowledge that through the tough times, the miracles of transformation happen, and we can flourish on the other side.
We are capable of doing amazing things—and even more if we can grow through our challenges.
2. Eliminate blame.
Things happen for no obvious reason sometimes. Exploring the way forward is much healthier than trying to blame someone or something for a setback that is irreversible.
3. Access your spirituality.
Spirituality can sustain us in times of uncertainty and difficulty. When we feel like we don’t have the physical, mental, or emotional strength to pull through, our faith in something more—whatever that may be—gives us the energy we need to keep going.
Spirituality reminds us that we are a gift, and have gifts to offer the world. Our job right now is to discover these gifts and to remove the setbacks so we can give them to others in the future.
Focusing on our spirituality allows us to see beyond this setback and find a purpose for it.
4. Give yourself time.
Just as we need to allow time for wounds and broken hearts to mend, we need to allow ourselves time to overcome our setbacks. Impatience only makes them harder and longer than they need to be.
We are in such a hurry to fix our problems and move on; usually this impatience is a pattern that overflows into other areas of our life.
I am terribly guilty of impatience, and the only solution I have found is focusing on and enjoying other things while allowing a setback to be resolved in its own time. I try to remember what really matters. I think back to happy memories and keep faith that after this setback I will be where I want to be.
It serves no purpose to dwell on a problem. Allow the movement of time to push you through it. Time does heal!
5. Step out of your comfort zone.
This is what I am doing now—confronting and staring a setback in the face, and sharing it honestly to say, “Hey this is where I’m at.” This type of openness has enormous power. We can learn so much from other people who are dealing with their own challenges, but we have to share our own to do it.
I’m dealing with a health challenge now, but I am not a victim. Setbacks can be overcome—even sickness.
I know I will be in a better situation on the other side of this, especially if I hold onto my faith and joy. I am confident I can beat this!
Yes we are all going to deal with setbacks in life, but we can overcome them if we see them as part of a bigger life picture, and commit to seeing them through from start to finish. Remember that this setback won’t stop you from being who you want to be and doing what you want to do.
credit : Tracy Jewel
By Jessica Dickler, CNNMoney.com staff writer
NEW YORK (CNNMoney.com) — Starting your own company is a big challenge, but staying positive could be an even bigger struggle.
No matter what kind of business you have, if you are not committed to a “failure is not an option” mindset, you are setting yourself up for failure, says Neil Anderson, president of The Courage Group, a consulting firm for entrepreneurs.
Indeed, only two-thirds of new small businesses survive at least two years, and just 44 percent survive at least four years, according to a study by the U.S. Small Business Association.
To avoid becoming another start-up casualty, the right mental state is crucial.
So when the bills begin to pile up, and clients or customers are few and far between, don’t be tempted to throw in the towel. Instead, keep your mind and mission on track.
Anderson offers these tips to help stay out of the failure trap:
Go mental. One of the most important elements to starting a successful business is being mentally prepared. Of course, skills, actions and good old-fashioned luck are also important factors, but it all begins with the right frame of mind.
To that end, stay away from people who are negative and may try to bring you down. Anderson admits that he fired his own girlfriend in the early stages of building his business, because of her pessimistic attitude (the relationship didn’t work out either).
She would say things like “you used to make so much more money working for someone else,” Anderson explained.
People can be negative simply because they are jealous that you had the courage to follow your own dream, not just talk about it, Anderson asserts.
Virtual reality. Although there will be many ups and downs, a light does exist at the end of the tunnel, and it is bright. By visualizing success, your actions will become more confident. And increased confidence breeds success.
Anderson advises entrepreneurs to think about why they started a business in the first place. Perhaps going back to work for someone else is not an option. In that case, just reminding yourself of the alternatives: being at the mercy of others controlling your life, playing corporate politics or reporting to incompetent bosses should be sufficient motivation to keep your mind right.
It’s all about sacrifice. A big component of the “failure is not an option” mindset is knowing that certain personal or financial sacrifices will need to be made along the way in order to achieve your dream. Entrepreneurs who have made sacrifices and prospered did so because they realized early on that starting and building a great company comes with a price.
Risk is not a four-letter word. Keep in mind that success comes to those who recognize risk, are unafraid of it, and will execute on their ideas. If you are risk-averse, your chances of business survival will probably be slim.
“I cashed in all my chips, my 401(k), whatever I could… I was willing to bet it all,” Anderson said of his consultancy firm, which he got off the ground in 2001.
A hungry dog hunts better. “My father said that to me at the outset,” Anderson said. When clients or customers are few and far between and money is tight or nonexistent, successful past and future entrepreneurs will always find a way to drum up another sale.
When times get tough financially, you really have only two choices: decrease your expenses or increase your revenues.
A roadmap will lead you to success. A business plan, which is a written description of what you are going to do and how you are going to do it, is the entrepreneur’s roadmap. It forces you to think about the entire operation and come to terms with the businesses strengths and weaknesses. Entrepreneurs who do their homework increase their chances for business success.
“Don’t look at it as a hassle or burden, look at it as an opportunity to survive,” Anderson said.
source : http://money.cnn.com/2007/01/09/smbusiness/tips_avoid_failure/
Here’s the funny thing about success–no one can agree what the word means. The definition of the good life varies from person to person, as one individual prioritizes career glory while another values a nurturing home life.
That means there’s no way to be successful without first deciding what you mean by the term. But it also means that, if you haven’t spent time really reflecting on your personal definition of success in a while, you could actually be closer to achieving it than you suspect.
That’s the uplifting message of a great recent Lifehack post by Carles Sabarich. In it, Sabarich contends that “lack of clarity can make it easy to believe that you are a failure, even when all the evidence in your life … points to other conclusions.” He goes on to offer a monster list of 25 tells that you’re probably more successful than you currently feel. Here are 10 in brief to get you started.
“If you are able to go day-to-day without the worry that you won’t have enough money to last until the end of the month, then you are most definitely a success!” declares Sabarich, offering readers a healthy dose of perspective.
“If you aren’t hanging around waiting to get the proverbial pat on the back at work or at home, you are a more successful individual than you might even know,” he claims. “Being able to do your part without looking for praise is a strong sign of mental security.”
Success isn’t all about more money and accolades. It’s also about less personal drama. “A lack of chaos points to order and harmony,” Sabarich feels.
You might think success is about reaching your goals, but Sabarich insists it’s really about have a road map for pursuing them. “If you actually have a framework to follow in your life to reach your life goals, you are already pretty successful. Most people don’t plan ahead!” he insists.
Nope, not having everything you want isn’t a sure sign of failure. “If you tend to look for more from any situation, you are already on your way to success,” Sabarich believes. “Ambition and a desire for knowledge point to determined individuals who seek to better themselves.”
“Success tends to come from your own experiences in life, including going through stresses and difficulties,” Sabarich writes. If you’ve internalized your own hard times and use those experiences to make yourself more respectful and empathetic, you’ve already harnessed a key driver of success.
“Your success in this world goes far beyond the cost of your car,” Sabarich reminds readers. “If you are able to … act as a pillar of strength for colleagues, success is not too far off.”
“The big difference between a successful person and someone who believes they are successful is the way they conduct themselves. If you can show some genuinehumility … you are already a successful individual.”
“Patience is a virtue that the most successful people emit on a large-scale basis. Without patience, it can be hard to ever make the type of impact that you originally intended in any work or personal environment,” claims Sabarich.
Saying no is all about knowing what’s important to you–and what’s not. So if you can do it, know you’re already on the way to a clear-sighted understanding of your values. Or as Sabarich puts it: “If you are able to say no, then you have already avoided the need to please everyone.”
Check out the complete post for the other 15 signs that you’re probably doing better than you think you are in life.